This might be the most important decision of your lifetime. Make it very carefully and thoughtfully.
Considerations:
Prior Relationships-How many serious relationships did your intended spouse have and how did they end? Ask yourselves,
Money – How do the two of you spend or save money? What is the first thing, when married, on which we will spend $500 or more?
Children – Do you agree on the all important topic of having children? This must be discussed because once you are a parent, you are always a parent. What values will you instill in your children?
Sex – There must be more than just a physical attraction. Do you agree on premarital sex or not?
Compatibility of personalities – Quite often, opposites are attracted to each other. You can still have a happy marriage provided that you both are committed to making it work.
Potential in-laws – Do the parents of your intended spouse approve of the match? If they disapprove, they may become a constant source of irritation in your marriage.
Religion – Do you share the same religion or are you with OK with the religious beliefs of your spouse?
Disagreements – How do you amicably resolve differences? It cannot be 50/50 because that will be a dead end. In marriage the recommendation is 80/20
Social life – Do you have friends in common? If not, will each of you continue to be supportive of existing friendships?
Addictions and life style – If one or both of you regularly use outside stimuli such as cigarettes or cannabis, it must be discussed. Obviously, that behavior can only be resolved by the person addicted.
These are only meant to be guidelines and are not necessarily in a particular order. They are just thoughts for discussion before marriage.
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